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Yearly Reflection: Your In and Out List

Weekly UpdateCarlene ThomasComment

As a DC metro area native, every year I waited with great anticipation to see the yearly 'In and Out' list from the Washington Post. I remember being in middle school and waiting to see this list! There's something very gratifying about seeing an entire year bundled up in two columns. While I don't spend too much time paying attention to what's 'in or out' these days (I don't care what you say- I will ALWAYS love navy blue and black together!), I do think the concept of making an in and out list is beneficial. 

What really sparked me doing my own personal in and out list was a book called 'Write It Down Make It Happen' that I just finished reading. They talk about this concept based on a Native American arrow ritual where they would instill the thought of what they want in their lives in an arrow and burn it at sunrise. Then they would take the negative things they want out of their lives and burry it. Or something along those lines. I'm not burning any arrows. But more or less for today's world, I figured even writing a list (and then burning it if your little pyro heart desires) puts the same intention into the new year. 

So I took stock of my life for 2014 and 2015. It was a great year. Fantastic actually! And I'm really excited about 2015. Here's my personal in and out list:


  • Starting video on the blog/You Tube
  • Thinking bigger
  • Writing more books and e-books
  • Host gatherings at home
  • Intentional simplicity
  • More being in nature/gardens
  • Make each blog post bigger and better, even if it means posting less


  • Email addiction

  • Clutter

  • Tedium
  • Small projects that take too much time that someone else can do
  • Frustration with things out of my control
  • Flight anxiety 


What's on your in and out list?

Wedding Wellness: Truth Bombs on a 3 Day Juice Cleanse

Beauty Foods, Weddings and EventsCarlene ThomasComment
fruitive cleanse

I've been pretty clear about my views on juice cleanses publicly (in The Knot and on Huffington Post Weddings) for a long time now. I give all sides of the story...but I have yet to do a truth bomb, totally real blog post on what it's like to go through one from my nutrition expert point of view. I know many of my brides are interested in them so I needed to totally commit and go through the full three day juice cleanse myself (my ultimate max I'm okay with) 

When Virginia based Fruitive reached out to me to test their three day cleanse I said yes. Well, that's a half truth. At first I automatically said no. After realizing I may need to open my mind a little to understand the benefits of a 'hard reset' my clients sometimes need, I went for it. And then panicked. The next day when I was sent my pre-cleanse protocol I sat at my desk thinking "What the heck did I get myself into?". 'Protocol' was so medical. So colonoscopy. But when I read into it, I realized I did support what Fruitive was suggesting. It's actually how I pretty much eat every day! Pre-cleanse was just a 'back to whole foods' clean eating way of life. Except when I got to the part about no coffee, no dairy, no meat, no alcohol and I'm like wait...what the eff?! Admittedly I didn't follow the no coffee rule. And here's why: I love coffee, I enjoy it, it's part of my daily ritual. And to get rid of it wasn't something I wanted to do. I also wanted to make sure everything I experienced during the cleanse was purely related to the cleanse itself and not caffeine withdrawal. Too many changed variables means an experiment with questionable results.

To kick things off, I did appreciate the other directions they sent for the pre-cleanse. They recommended avoiding social activities (that's just baiting you to not do it and be mad at yourself) and to give yourself a relaxing weekend. Except I couldn't opt out of weekend plans because I was food styling a party. And that's just the perfect example of what not to be doing during a cleanse. 

fruitive cleanse

The process of a juice cleanse is easy since everything is numbered and all you do is drink them in order. But there's a lot more than 'drink and be done'. Here's what I learned during the three day cleanse. 

  • You live by the hour and the drink number. You literally sit there thinking "Okay 30 more minutes until juice number 2!". It kind of took over my brain.
  • By the end of the night you are this close to killing someone for a rotisserie chicken. Even if you rarely eat meat. I straight started obsessing over food, especially protein by the evening and that was a red flag for me. Since I'm very in tune with my nutrition and my body that's a major 'woah' moment for me. I talked about going out and buying a rotisserie chicken for probably an hour on the first night. For me, I probably would have been happier if the last drink (the nut milk based one with protein) was actually half way through the day. That level of obsession was a little too disordered for me. 
  • The juices were too sweet for me. If you are already eating a pretty clean diet that's vegetable heavy, you are going to be overwhelmed by how sweet these juices are. Even the green juices were just overwhelmingly sweet. By the end of the third day I really think my body re-calibrated to craving more sweet things. The salad I had the next day seemed so bitter in comparison. That being said if I was to do this again I would pick a different cleanse package to meet that need. 
  • Beet juice does not bode well for all of us. I actually emailed my appointed contact during the cleanse at Fruitive asking about some side effects I was experiencing. I had a headache and my heart was racing. And it was probably the beet juice. She actually told me some people need to cut the beet juice in half with water. Yikes! I had no idea that was a problem for some people! 
  • If you're going to do a cleanse reset for one day or three, your partner needs to be on the same page. I'm very lucky the husband was up to do this with me at the same time. If he was eating and I wasn't, I would have had a conniption. If you have the same parameters you're less likely to be mad that he or she suggested you go out to dinner and you become the "I caaaaan't!" girl.  
  • It made me realize how much I head to the kitchen when I'm bored. Yes. Sometimes I fridge browse when I need a mental break and that weekend made me realize it! 
  • One day is enough for me personally. This is different for everyone but if I honestly felt I needed a major reset, one day would be my maximum. My personal reset would be a juice in the morning or for lunch and then having a salad and protein with lots of veggies and maybe a soup. I think because I respect food and enjoy everything about food so much, it's really torturous for me to shun it.

The bottom line: More than anything, I would love to incorporate a veggie juice into my everyday life at home. So I did! Since I finished this cleanse I started using my Vitamix paired with cheese cloth to strain out the solids. We always have green juice or a carrot beet apple blend stocked in to go bottles for breakfast in a pinch or part of lunch. And I love that. I think this process is good for someone who needs hard rules to start eating healthier because really you're detoxing your habits. I do get concerned that those who have a diet that really needs help go on this and come off in a binge mode. People probably need help post cleanse in the 'what's next' phase which would be a great reason for them to actually stop in to the Fruitive store for their meals! I'm actually hoping I can go in and try their non-juice menu soon! It looks amazing-and totally what I would eat on a regular basis.  

Who's up for a road trip to the VA shore? 

2014 Christmas List

Lovely Links, Outfit PostsCarlene ThomasComment

When I put my thinking cap on for what I needed and wanted for Christmas this year, I looked back to my Christmas 2013 list. The great thing about having a blog? It's like my external memory hard drive. So here's what I found: every thing on that list is something I made an investment in and literally use weekly, if not daily, in my life even today. 

THAT is the sign of smart purchases. I'm feeling pretty smug right now. But I think it shows the importance of taking stock of what you need and will use in your life. A little effort goes a long way. 

What I asked for Christmas Last Year:

This Year: 

Let me start off by saying the husband and I are kind of non-traditional when it comes to gift giving. We honestly don't see the point of waiting to use a product until a specific date on the calendar. So we order gifts and when they come in, we hand them over and use them! That's why you've definitely seen one or more of these things in recent pictures. Practicality at it's finest. 

  • External hard-drive/back up for my Mac: If you've ever had your computer crash before you know the soul crushing experience that it is. I have memories of me carrying the carcass of my dead laptop into Apple and asking them to give it a Viking funeral. Now that Mac makes it so easy to have a back up I just have no excuse to NOT buy this. In fact, it's kind of stupid of me to have not done it already. Totally playing with fire. This is a business necessity. I'm an idiot for not already having it. 
  • Grey smoking slippers (On Sale Now): I love smoking slippers. They're fantastic! I have a plaid pair that I break out for fall and winter but I was looking for a grey shoe of some kind. Perfect solution. Super comfortable to walk around in. Get them. And maybe in more than one color. 
  • A non-baseball cap hat : I've already sung the praises of this wide brimmed black hat form Moorea Seal. I LOVE it. If you're petite especially, this is perfect for you. It instantly makes you feel put together. 
  • Signature perfume scent : I recently had a discussion with one of my friends and office mates from my CCM studio about scent. About how I've been wearing literally the antithesis of everything I like in a smell. I've always work very light, very citrusy and powdery scents. I think I've just done it out of comfort starting with the first one I ever wore: Clinique Happy Heart. And maybe those scents were perfect for me then, but I just don't like them! So the search began for a signature scent. A true scent that has notes of leather and darker spices that I love. Which led me to Sephora's fragrance department where they went through their catalogue of perfumes by scent notes to find my top 20. I narrowed it down to a top three or four and took home samples to wear. Because the most important thing is that the smell develops and it is way different than the initial top note spray. The Sephora team was fantastic. If you need help, go there! Long story short, I actually ended up with two men's fragrances and two unisex. I'm almost 100% set on Hermès Voyage d'Hermès. 

What's on your list this year? Indulge my nosiness! 

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